Loving Through Another Chapter

December 24th, 2013 my kids opened up presents, each one containing a photo of a puppy. It had been almost a year since both my parents passed and I wanted to bring more love into our lives. The kids thought they were each getting a puppy, but it was just one! Georgie Kay named after my parents, came to us in January 2014.

I used to say she was my therapy dog, but truly she was a package of pure love and light coated with the softest fur, and a tongue that would kiss you endlessly. She was the one who was there for us in all the ways a dog could be. So many changes in life she was there. She was always the constant anchor of love, showing up in some of our darkest times. When we decided to adopt her sister ( Honey the Chihuahua) back in 2017, never did I think they would bond the way they did. Georgie showed her how to be a dog, but more importantly, how to love. She traveled many hours and lived in many places, but nothing changed her; she was always the constant love showing us and teaching us. Then, in August 2022, came Bob, our orange cat, whom we adopted as a kitten. He believes he is part dog, as he has grown up with his two sisters. We had a zoo, so we called them, and it was one of the greatest times of my life. Bob gave his sisters a run for their money, but he was always put in his place. When Honey passed at the end of August 2025, our little zoo had to change and shift. Georgie was sad that her sister was gone and Bob would meow throughout the house looking for her. These last 7 months have been a big transition for us, as Honey left a big hole in our hearts. Sadly, that hole grew bigger last night as we had to say goodbye to our sweet Georgie Kay. Doing what is best for someone never means it is easy. Each soul we are lucky to love and be loved changes you in ways that words can’t relay.

About 20 minutes ago, before I started writing this, a red cardinal flew up by my window. I feel peace knowing she was telling me she is happy.

I always say death teaches us how to live. That each moment we have is a gift. We have the power inside of us to show up as love in every way, shape, and form. Animals are pure love. They ask for nothing, but give us love, freely, unconditionally. If we all could embody that, what a wonderful world we would have.

Today and every day, do one thing in love, for yourself, for your kids, for your partner, or for a stranger. It will create a ripple effect of love. Thank you, Georgie Kay for all your love the last 12 years. Your heart was pure love and light and I will treasure this chapter for whatever time I have left on this realm. XO-Rach

Loving Through To The Other Side.

Death is something that will happen to each one of us. What we believe and trust makes the experience more beautiful.

Growing up, I attended church, Sunday School, Confirmation, and summer camps. I was taught there was a heaven and a hell — if you were a good person, you would go to heaven, and if you weren’t, you would go to hell. As a child, this sounded scary, and maybe it was meant that way to keep you on the straight path? Heaven was described as a place with pearly gates, with God sitting there waiting, along with people from your past who were waiting for you to come. Those stories never sat well with me, probably because I questioned everything and never had real confirmation from someone who had been there. Death was a scary concept back then. I imagined you closed your eyes and it was just pure darkness — that was it, life was done.

I stopped going to church years ago, as it was not the place where I found God. All my beliefs changed, and everything that was told to me in my younger years faded away. I now say I am not religious, but I am spiritual. I believe in God, Angels, and Guides, and I know I have a team up there who watches over me.

Death does not scare me anymore. I don’t believe we close our eyes and that’s it. I have experienced a lot of death in my life, and it has been a catalyst for my growth in the spiritual realm. I know now, more than ever, that our souls never leave. There are signs and messages from loved ones all the time — but the key is, you have to be open to see them, feel them, and trust them.

It has been nine weeks since our sweet Honey left us, and I was having a really hard time. No matter how many losses you experience, it is the grief of not seeing, feeling, hearing, or touching them that leaves us sad and heartbroken. A few weeks ago, as I lay in bed crying, I started talking to God, my Angels, and Honey. I asked Honey for a sign — not just that she was okay, but that she was still with us.

The next night, I saw a job posting for the rescue place we adopted her from. I sent it to my daughter, and she applied. The next day, she got an email saying they wanted to interview her. She went, and when she sat down, there on the wall was a picture of our sweet Honey, from the day she came to the rescue facility. My daughter asked if that was Honey, and they said yes. They told her they’d heard she had just passed away, and my daughter, holding back tears, said, “That was my dog.” She got the job a few days later. Honey heard me — and gave me the sign.

Last week, we had a reading with a pet psychic. It was my second time with her, and this reading was all about connecting with Honey. The parts I want to share are the ones that affirmed my knowing and deepened my beliefs even more. She said Honey kept bringing up something about a bed or sheets. I said my daughter had just gotten a new bed. She said, “Honey is saying, I could never have gotten up there.” Which is true! She also said Honey keeps mentioning a pillow with a picture of her on it — and there is one. After Honey passed away, my daughter’s friend ordered her a pillow of a Chihuahua that looked like Honey, with angel wings and her name embroidered on it.

Honey told me not to have any guilt and that she was happy. Georgie, our other dog, who is alive and was sitting next to us during the reading, also had some words to say. She told the psychic she missed her sister and was having a hard time eating lately, which is true. She also said she knew Honey was leaving, as Honey had told her before she left. It was the most healing experience, and I am so thankful for it.

Why I am sharing this is to help anyone who is grieving or questioning the other side. We are never alone; we always have a team walking beside us. Asking for a sign is all it takes. They want to help us — we just need to ask. We are souls wearing a suit, and when the suit can’t go on, our energy — our soul — moves to the other side. How beautiful is that?

I don’t believe in death. Energy can never die; it just changes form. It can be such a hard concept, as our hearts and minds feel a hole for the suit that is no longer here, but I know they are never far from us. -XO Rach

If you are interested in the pet psychic I used, here is her information. She is amazing!

Lisa Brown- Best Day Healing

www.bestdayhealing@gmail.com

And if you are looking to adopt: Angel Of Hope Rescue is the best!!

Loving Through The Knowing…

When you know, you know—but you may not really know why. Lord, that could be the theme of my life.

I knew months ago that I wanted to move (again), but I really didn’t know where. I started looking for jobs, but that only led to roadblocks, which caused a lot of frustration. After each block, I kept feeling the pull to go back to what was home—but truthfully, it was not where I wanted to go. Why would I want to go back to the place I couldn’t wait to leave? Nothing made sense, but I knew I had to listen to that pull, and that’s what I did.

We moved back at the end of May, and we lived with my son and his now-wife until the first week of August. I can honestly say it was one of the best summers of my life. Getting that time to live with my son again was truly a gift—one I will treasure forever. It didn’t take long for me to understand why I was meant to return to the place I had longed to leave. I began healing in ways I never knew I still needed—but my soul did. What I had once believed began fading, making space for new truths to form.

Knowing doesn’t mean you have to know it all—but when you listen to that tug of your soul, you better believe it’s for something far greater than you could ever imagine. Beautiful things start to unfold, and life as you knew it changes in ways you could have only dreamed of.

I have learned that spaces that once caused you hurt can also heal you in ways you never thought were possible. After all, we are energy, constantly flowing in each moment. We are not who we were yesterday, and that is the beauty of life. That’s why we are here: to grow, learn, heal, and evolve into pure love.

Sometimes I have to stop and look back at the last few years and remind myself that I had a knowing then—that I had to leave—even when I didn’t understand it all. Today, I do. I had to leave to be able to come back and heal the things that would allow me to grow into a more loving and compassionate person. The work we do on ourselves is the greatest work we can do in this lifetime. None of it is easy, but the rewards of healing are what make it worth it.

I’ve been able to face people I never wanted to see again. The beauty of it is, I am not who I was a few years ago, and the thoughts and beliefs I once had have changed. I can be who I am without dimming myself. The memories that once pained me have now shown my growth, and that has been one of the most beautiful things to witness in myself.

Will I stay here forever? I can’t answer that—because right now, I know this is where I’m meant to be. But you better believe I’ll listen to that pull if it comes—because I’ve learned to trust it, and I know it’s always guiding me to what I need, even if I don’t yet know exactly why.

Loving Through- XO Rach

What Would Love Do?

Love is always there in our darkest and toughest moments and each one in between. All you need to do is ask yourself, “What would love do?”

Fear stops us, love grows us. Our minds can be the villains of our story, but our hearts lead us to the happy ending.

Most people were never taught to trust themselves. Instead, the beliefs of others instilled doubt in our capabilities.

Love has a bad story. It is love that breaks our hearts. Someone else is much more powerful and in control of our very own. In reality, no one holds that power unless we are listening to our minds.

Here’s the plot twist. Love has no judgment, fear, control, or any power struggles. It just is. Simple and pure. No strings attached.

It is a God-given gift to each one of us. But it takes patience, healing, and relearning what we have forgotten. But once you start remembering, your life changes. The way you see, feel, think, and move will become completely different.

Life will always be life, meaning there will always be struggles, hard times, and dark times, but if you start asking the question, “What would love do?” you will start seeing different ways.

Love will envelop you, hold you, and keep you safe. XO- Rach

Don’t Wait To Love.

Don’t wait to love your life. If you do, you will miss amazing moments. And before you know it, time will run out, and you will be left with regrets. What is holding you back from loving this moment or the next?

Don’t wait to love that person. When you feel you are finally ready, they may already be gone. There is no perfect time for love; it is a constant and ever-flowing energy. One day or your last day you could be all alone.

Don’t wait to love your career. Only you have the power to change your thoughts or change your job. Every day should not feel like work. It should feel like you were meant to do what you are doing.

Don’t wait to love your family and friends. Each moment spent is like a gift. Show them and be the love you feel. There is no time to judge, argue, and be anything but love.

Don’t wait to love yourself. This body is your temple. Treat yourself like you are the queen or king of it. Beauty comes from the inside and shines outwards. Take the time. Learn. Heal. Change happens when you are tired of the same cycle.

Don’t wait to love this earth. Treat her with kindness. Walk barefoot. Feel the sun. Splash in the waters. Touch the ground and feel her energy.

Don’t wait to love this journey. We have no control when our time is over. Love while you are here.

What are you waiting for? …. XO-Rach

Who Am I?

Who am I? This is a powerful question I have been asking myself often lately. I look at it as a check-in with myself to see what story I am telling and whether it is true or untrue.

When I was younger, I would have said I was a daughter. When I was married, I would have said I was a wife. When I had kids, I would have said I was a mom. But none of those statements said who I was. They just defined me by a role or title that I took on. Whatever we do for a job does not make us that, but we have grown up in a society that loves to put titles on who we are. What if you went deeper? What if you saw yourself differently?

We constantly evolve, grow, and learn, but does that change who you are? I once believed it did, but now I see myself for who I am: a soul living a human experience. Yes, our emotions and experiences change us, but I feel in ways that lead us to know who we are. Like a snake, we shed our skin to see a new layer, the growth of lessons we have learned, who we have always been, and who we are meant to become. I always go back to my little 4-5-year-old self lying in the grass and looking up into the sky. I would talk with God and ask him why he put me here and who I was. I was always aware that I was more than just Rach, not in an ego way, but spiritually.

And here I am today, almost 52, and honestly, I am still that little girl who questions so much, but in a more profound way. I still talk to God, and I still wonder, in moments, who I am. But in those moments of asking, I now remember I am love. I am this soul who is here to relearn what I forgot. I question things that don’t make sense and find the answers that align with me. I am both light and darkness; my job is to clear that darkness away. I am infinite, and when it is time to leave this realm, I know I will live on.

So, who are you? XO-Rach

The Other Shoe.

Have you ever felt you were waiting for the other shoe to drop? That there was no way life could be good or that person, place, or thing would last or even happen? Why is it that when something good enters, we want to sit in fear and worry about it leaving instead of enjoying whatever it is in the moments we have? I never believed I was worthy of all the good, so the shoe always dropped.

I never entirely understood why this happened and was starting to accept my life would never be anything but shoeless. Looking back on my whole life, I would see all the times I thought things were moving in the right direction, but there was always a but! But then this happened, and then that happened, and the story went on and on. I realized how my thoughts and beliefs constantly led to that shoe falling off. I never thought I was worthy of good. Whenever something “good” happened, I would wait and not get my hopes up that it would last or stay because it never seemed to. I never wanted to see lessons or signs. I just wanted things to be how I wanted them to be.

I know today that if we don’t look at the signs and lessons, we will repeat cycles until we change our thoughts and way of life. If we don’t believe we are worthy of a partner or a job, that is more than likely what will happen. It has nothing to do with a dark cloud around us but the dark cloud we create. The hardest life lesson is to believe in ourselves and that we are worthy of everything we want. When we don’t get what we want and have that belief in ourselves, it is a sign that it is not for us. Sometimes, those are the hardest to understand, but I believe that means something better is coming.

I try to live without attaching an outcome; it is a work in progress and a daily struggle. We must first have self-love and the awareness that we are not in control of what or how we want things to be or go. We must embrace the good moments and the good stuff with gratitude and ride the waves of the challenges. Waiting for the other shoe to drop is a waste of our energy.

I know I would rather be shoeless, not because I am afraid for any shoes to drop, but because I have learned how to ground myself through anything. XO-Rach

What Inspires You?

If someone had asked me that question 10, 15, or even 20 years ago, I would probably have said my kids. This wouldn’t have been wrong, but it would not have thoroughly answered the question. I don’t think I would have known what inspiration truly meant—not because I lived under a rock but because I had not been genuinely inspired by anything for most of my life. I never had the space to be myself, so it would have been challenging to feel and be inspired.

Fast-forward seven-plus years, and BOOM! I was back on my path after so many years. I started to rediscover inspiration and how it felt. It truly was like I had been in a jar with the lid sealed shut, and someone opened it up, and I was breathing again for the first time. Everything in my life felt brand new; I was rediscovering everything that had always been there, but I could SEE for the first time in a long time.

Today, I wake up inspired by the simplest things. Walking my zoo, seeing and being in nature, reading, and working out—honestly, things come to me in so many moments of my day that my notes on my phone are filled with writing. I have realized that inspiration is NOT work, nor should it ever feel like that. Inspiration should flow naturally once we let go of fear and control; alignment takes over if we allow it to, and a new world opens up.

I had to leave the life of living in a jar to be inspired and alive. No matter the hell I went through to get out, I would do it again. My kids still inspire me, but for different reasons than before; I now see clearly and deeper and have a more profound sense of what inspiration means.

Life should inspire us. If you aren’t inspired, that is a sign to change something in your life. There is a whole world of wonder waiting for you to discover.

We should never be stuck in a jar looking and watching life go by. XO-Rach

Unconditional Love.

I always believed I loved unconditionally, but I realized that was untrue. I loved with conditions.

Loving unconditionally means loving without limits, doing, and giving without expecting anything in return. It is more about knowing what someone can and can not give you in that moment or space and loving them for who they are and where they are. When we give anything to someone, it needs to come from the heart. That means our love, time, words, gifts, anything. If we do not show up authentically with an open heart, we do not love unconditionally.

In most of my past relationships, I can see where I placed all kinds of expectations on them. If I give you this, I will get this. If I say this, they will say that. None of this will get you far and will not produce a positive outcome. This behavior only leads to heartbreak and the breakdown of a relationship. It is never about the other person’s ability to love, but instead, it is about our inability to love ourselves.

Unconditional love is building healthy boundaries. It’s saying, "I see you. I see what is happening. I am here with no judgment." It’s being the safe space for someone’s heart, not shaming or blaming. We often react to other people’s energy and take things personally. These are just signs for us to look into our hearts and see why we think and feel what we do. Our minds like to make assumptions that feel true when, in reality, we may have no idea what is happening with someone else. Communication is the key to every healthy relationship.

I now know what it is like to love unconditionally. It is still a daily practice and probably will be forever, but knowing how it feels, I could never return to loving any other way. I like to think of my zoo and the unconditional love they give every moment of the day. They love with the purest of hearts.

We begin to see others when we can take ourselves out of the equation. XO-Rach

What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You More Resilient.

Is resilience built into us, or is it something we learn? My younger self would have said built into, but my wiser self knows it is something we learn. And boy, have I and still continue to learn.

We have choices whenever we encounter a trauma, problem, or hardship. We can either continue to suffer or bounce back and become stronger. The key is in our choosing.

I have always known I have been a “strong” person, but I don’t think I ever believed I could be different. I never considered how my thoughts on something could change my outlook on everything. For example, I used to believe everything was happening to me, and believe me, there were times when it felt like it. But now I know everything was happening for me. That simple adjustment of our thoughts can make all the difference from being a victim to being able to cope and adjust to any situation that comes our way. This human experience is not always the easiest process, but learning and growing from each unpleasant one can support us in the future.

When I reflect on my life to now, I laugh at some moments I thought I would die from. And honestly, there are a lot! One of my favorite things I like to say to myself is, “What is the worst thing that could happen?” My point is that I have the power to decide my path and how I want to navigate any challenges that come my way. We all have moments that feel like we are breaking apart, but what if everything is happening to put us together? Our mindset is everything, but it’s our hearts that will guide us there.

Resilience is a choice, just like anything in life. You can be a victim or your own hero.

I am still alive and go through a lot, but I choose to love through everything. XO-Rach